1) Everybody has one
2) Some are bigger than others
3) Sometimes they are out of shape or they have shrunk because of lack of use.
4) They need to be exercised regularly to stay healthy.
5) Nobody can exercise it for you.
6) If it’s weak you are less than optimally effective. A lot less.
This analogy is getting better as I type. If we imagine in our mind a person’s shape or level of fitness as representing the health of their dream muscle, firstly we see people who have never worked on their dream muscle their entire life. Nobody has taught them to dream, that it is OK to have a dream, or they just didn’t want to listen. They manage to just get through their daily or monthly goals with just enough dream to get them to their next pay cheque. Nobody has shared the concept of the value in their own dream. These people invariably end up working their lives away expending what little motivation they have on someone else’s dream, then go home every night and throw their brains at a television set and cramming popcorn into their face with grubby fingers rather than putting their free time to better use. They are doing everything they can to be able to withstand or escape the nightmare and cannot even conceive of chasing a dream. They hate waking up in the morning and they negotiate with the alarm clock until the very last possible minute.
By the way, with very few exceptions a TV cannot be used to build your dream muscle. Did you know that your brain is actually more active sleeping than when you are watching TV! At least when you are sleeping you are dreaming, your mind is active. Watching TV allows the media moguls to do it for you. In justifying this observation, ask yourself how many times you’ve read a great novel and yet when the movie came out you were so disappointed with it because it was not at all how you had imagined it should be. Personally, my mind immediately thinks of the recent Lord of The Rings trilogy. As much as I might have enjoyed the movies, I was so much more entertained by reading the books. The characters were as I wanted them to be. In fact, even the author’s intention, most times is irrelevant. I don’t read a book to please the author – I do it to please me!
The next kind of person is the person who had a BIG dream – once. But its shrunk! It was expected to be big and bouncy, flexible and strong, powerful and punchy all on its own. But, it just couldn’t maintain because all of that persons attention was focussed elsewhere, drawing the nourishment away from the dream muscle. I’ll not go through the whole TV thing again here, but you cannot expect your day to be an exciting motivational activity when you mind never works on the dream. Your heart will follow what you think about most and my guess is that too many of the patrons of my local mall are spending too much time thinking about ”Big Fat Gypsy Weddings”, “The Biggest Losers” or ”Keeping Up With The Kardashians”. Having a dream once doesn’t mean that it can sustain inevitably. The dream takes work. How many people do you know who end up looking nothing like their fit, trim, athletic selves of twenty years earlier? Just because you played first team rugby in high school doesn’t mean you can look and feel like that when you hit thirty-something. Many times the extended beer bellies are more reminiscent of a scene from Alien than the buff bodies that we think we have in our minds’ eye.
Another type of dreamer is the one who doesn’t stick to their dream training program. Although they realise that they need to build the dream muscles it is too much like hard work to stick with the program that means the most to them. Maybe they don’t really believe it is possible for them. Maybe their self esteem (or someone else) tells them they’re not good enough. They are flighty and unfocussed rather training on the treadmill where they can chat to their buddy, or check out the chicks! One month they treat one thing as their BIG dream, the next month it’s something totally different. They just can’t seem to stick with one thing and just as they may be starting to make some progress, they change to something else. There is no real focus. No dedication. No commitment. No pain, no gain. I am not by any means implying that your dream can’t change. Of course they can. Any dream can grow. It can be enhanced and it can be expanded on. We change, why can’t our dream? Sometimes our dream can change in an entirely different direction when we realise a new found talent or passion or love. I knew a man once who was absolutely sold out to his dream of climbing the corporate ladder and becoming his definition of success, when one mild heart attack changed his whole approach to life. Suddenly the things that money couldn’t buy became the one eyed focus of his dream. The point is that although the dream can change, it cannot continuously change.
Then lastly, there is the real dreamer. He’s the guy at the mall who is not looking left or right, not window shopping. He’s walking at a brisk, upright and determined pace to where he is going to post his letter. That’s it. Everything he does is about finding the shortest, quickest or easiest way to his dream. It’s urgent, it’s important and he’s going to move towards it no matter what. He’s the guy who works out at the gym, sticking to a program 4 or 5 days a week, winter summer, spring and autumn. He’s the guy who cycles his prescribed distance whether it’s raining or shining, freezing or boiling. He’s out there and he’s getting it down. He doesn’t care if his buddies can make it or not. He’s out there anyway. Often these are the guys that are training on their own, because there are so few that can be found that are sold out to their dream!
How do you think the story ends for these people? Is it worth it? Could you become one of them? In answering these questions for you, be careful that you make sure that you first know what your dream really is.
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